Relationships are somewhat defined by the history of interactions between two or more people. Healthy relationships are based on balanced reciprocity or mutual exchange. Although each relationship has many features, perhaps the most important characteristic is the level of symmetry found within personal exchanges.
A relationship is either considered symmetrical and peer-based, or it is asymmetrical and power-based. In a peer-based relationship, each person regards the other as their equal. In a power based relationship, one person takes a dominating position while the other assumes the submissive position. This ranking may be well known and accepted, a source of dispute within the relationship, or it may be unknown to the people in the relationship.
Leaders of groups can assume a role of holding power over others within the community. This can be especially true within spiritual groups, where members believe the leader holds some sort of special powers. When a conflict arises, those who have given away their power to the leader can become gripped with fear of retribution that can lead to the creation of some type of energetic disharmony. Let’s get a whisper on the subject of power-based relationships:
Each person carries their own vibrational frequency that has an energetic match with regard to life-force energy. Energies mix within the dynamics of any relationship, creating a unique frequency specific to the relationship. Any type of event or experience between the two parties, whether traumatic or joyous, carries the possibility of energetic imbalances occurring.
Some relationship imbalances are agreed upon with awareness, while other imbalance agreements are more subtle in nature. When one person tries to control another, there must be some form of contract or agreement that supersedes free will in a way that facilitates the asymmetrical arrangement. The only exception to agreements of submission within relationships relates to children and those who are impaired in some way. With regard to adults, a willingness to give away personal power is needed before their free will can be usurped.
Fear creates an energy of submission that can lead to a subconscious agreement. Trauma from a past experience can lead to power-based agreements within relationships. Past lifetimes can set up agreements that usually surround karmic balancing and debt removal.
In order to be released from someone who is taking power away from you, first you must release any contracts or agreements. Ceremony around such a release can serve to forward the balance of energy. Using boundaries based with intention for creating wellness within a relationship can serve to create a symmetrical exchange of energy. Stand your ground, be your own authority figure, trust yourself, and see only the love between two hearts. Then you will become witness to any unwillingness to be equal within your relationships.
Bring joy, ease suffering and create beauty, then dance like you mean it!
Blessings, Russell
“In my isolation, I dreamt of power. My daydreams and fantasies were all about how I could win, how I could be number one, how I could have my cake and eat it too. When those dreams were fulfilled, I felt nothing. The love-sized hole within me grew larger and larger as I died by my own hand, by my own mind. During my transformation, I found what I needed to fill the hole. I found peace, joy, and connection. To power, I waved goodbye. I thought that being a loving, spiritual being meant sacrificing that triumph-hungry drive within. For much too long, I ignored these urges, believing them to be the opposite of love while I cycled in and out of love awareness. The day that my love mindset became a permanent state of mind was the day I realized that love is not the opposite of power. Love is power. Love is the strongest power there is.”
― Vironika Tugaleva, The Love Mindset
