In my practice and as a lover of observing human nature, I notice patterns with people. It took years before I had an Aha moment regarding narcissism. A person would bring in their partner, whom they claimed exhibited narcissistic behaviors, and the same thing happened every time. After I performed a forty-point energy scan, the ‘narcissist’ showed clear, balanced energy. How can that be? (tee hee) Well, the answer to that question came immediately upon asking! A narcissist has no empathy, which means they don’t take on the energies from other sources.
With soul attachments that form in childhood, a narcissist runs adaptations or behavior programs. One of those programs is designed to develop the charm to get what they want from people, which makes narcissism difficult to spot. Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, troubled relationships, a lack of empathy, and a deep need for excessive attention and admiration.
A common question asked from clients is “Why do I attract narcissists?” The problem is not attracting narcissists; the issue is failing to spot the behavior and move on. Kind people often hold on to relationships out of the potential they know is deep inside that person. Anyone who notices a pattern of attracting narcissists should work on spotting the signs and breaking off the relationship as soon as possible. Let’s break away for a whisper from an angel on the subject:
Humans are often taught to use emotions as a vehicle of manipulation. Until a person has evolved beyond their childhood conditioning of using emotions to manipulate, they will find it challenging to grow beyond their patterns of behavior. Manipulation is a skill that everyone possesses and is connected to the ego and survival instinct. The ego influences distortions of the mind which can perpetuate the suffering found in unhealthy relationships.
Everyone expresses some level of narcissism. Behavior can indicate whether a person is operating at a level considered unhealthy. Due to narcissistic inclinations of refusal to accept a truthful emotional reality, there is often little self-awareness around behavior that would lead to realizations of an inflated sense of one’s own importance. The human mind is proficient at denying responsibility for actions, which leads to finding fault, blaming others, and justifying actions.
Due to their powerful suppression of emotional realities, a narcissist can relate energy in an explosive manner, forming an uncomfortable undercurrent in the relationship. This makes it easier to ignore than to face. Coupled with the familiarity that accompanies the karmic nature of relationships, the magnetic aspects can keep a person engaged beyond reason. Obsession, impulsive behavior, and entitlement are trademarks of the complex relationship with a narcissist.
If you maintain the story of being a magnet to all narcissistic behavior, it will become the story of your life. Your story is what you are communicating to the Universe, asking for more lessons of love which can act to sustain the negative pattern. Rise above what you see to know what you feel, then honor those feelings. Do not submit to anything but your own inner authority. Establish healthy boundaries from the beginning, and your relationships will be built on the foundations of love and wellness. To know love begins with having the courage to love yourself.
Bring joy, ease suffering and create beauty, then dance like you mean it!
Blessings, Russell
