I received a message this week that read like a laundry list of all the things I didn’t do to earn a person’s love. Our communication was a dialogue where I voiced my perception of a heart connection that was being dismissed as my own brand of incorrect thinking (tee hee). What I thought was a deep personal connection was expressed as ‘we have never had a connection’, followed by a list of all the evidence supporting that claim.
Later that same day, I took the time to visit a friend whom I had not seen since he moved an hour away from Austin. The first thing he said was “I know we don’t see each other often, but I want you to know it makes no difference. I feel we are connected in our hearts in a way that goes well beyond time and space. I love you no matter how far apart we are, and I want you to know I always feel you in my heart.”
Until we become enlightened beings, I am sure unconditional love is near impossible to attain. Why do some people choose to add conditions to love? There are qualities of love that are rich, deep, timeless, unstoppable, and delicious. It has nothing to do with quantity. As my dear friend Danny once said, “My father never told me he loved me. He didn’t hug or show affection, but I have never once doubted that he loved me.” I guess that says it all. We either know love in our hearts or we make up separation stories in our mind. I felt hurt by the expression ‘we have no connection’ when every ounce of my being says the opposite. You can’t convince a person of love; they have to feel it. Let’s feel into a whisper on the quality of love:
Love is both an energy and an emotion. One form of love cannot exist without the other. Humans incarnate to experience both while living in a three-dimensional environment. Desire fuels the transient emotion of love. Having a desire fulfilled may be pleasurable, but does not always reach the heart to deliver love.
Some people feel the way they think they should feel in response to life experiences. The more hurt they have experienced in life, the more mental they are likely to become. The human heart was not designed to sustain attack and remain open. When the heart is closed out of fear from pain, love cannot easily flow with balanced giving or receiving. Relationships cannot reach a certain depth to the feeling of connection without openness.
The energy of love is like a fabric that stitches together the Universe. Divine love is an energy that fills the soul with everything it seeks. Love is unlimited and cannot be contained by the mental dimension of human energy. Love taking form as energy comes from personal connections to the heart, to God, to Universal Consciousness, to nature, to family, and to animals.
Animals have no karma or ego, so they embody love without conditions. Humans turn to animals for support in this way: to learn, to understand, to grow, and to evolve. The quality of love can be realized in a single moment of connection. Love is found by looking into the eyes, which are the windows to the soul. There is no quantity of words or actions that define love in such a way. Love cannot be measured. True love cannot be destroyed. Love is eternal.
Bring joy, ease suffering and create beauty, then dance like you mean it!
Blessings, Russell
“This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving. I choose to live life this way. I want to live my life in such a way that when I get out of bed in the morning, the devil says, ‘aw shit, he’s up!” Steve Maraboli
