Self-indulgence defines behavior with the sole purpose of gaining pleasure for the self. Self-indulgent behavior can also involve not doing something. It’s easy to confuse the search for happiness with the feeling of instant gratification. Feeling pleasure from doing whatever you want is almost impossible for an empath. Self-indulgence...
“Cognitive dissonance is basically this phenomenon whereby we have a natural drive for consistency, in that our belief system must be consistent with itself and it must be consistent with our actions,” says Matt Johnson PhD. These days consistency is a rarified condition of life on Earth (tee hee)....
The word meaning is to determine or identify the essential qualities. Existential mattering, coherence, and a sense of purpose are three major predictors of life’s meaning. But according to Pew Research, there are three top answers to the question of the meaning of life. Family or relationships, career, and...
Autonomy is defined as freedom from external control or influence. Most relate autonomy to independence. In psychology, autonomy is self-governance and taking personal responsibility. When it comes to independence, we have to consider relatedness as part of our nature as social beings. (tee hee). Relatedness and autonomy are intertwined...
A whisperee sent a question asking what it means to believe they had ruined their life. My answer was part whisper and part reflection. Ruin implies irrevocable damage of some kind. Immediately you get the sense of the subjective nature involved in such an inquiry. The mere concept leaves...
Transition is defined as the process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another. Change seems to be a constant these days. Transition is a word that some would use in place of change, but they are not the same. Transition describes the inner process...
In 2022, more than 90% of the 300k people surveyed named goblin mode the word of the year. The Oxford University Press defined this specific term as a type of behavior. Described by some as self-indulgent, a new way of living developed during the pandemic. Working from home influenced...
This week I found myself in front of a Federal judge. I was given the opportunity to express my feelings over the brutal murder of my granddaughter in 2020. Part of my thought process in the preparation of my statement was a question: How do I express something that...
Some of us are always trying to make sense out this game we call Life. Pondering the existential questions around our very existence places us on the edge every day. I often stand on the precipice of the great divide between creation and pre-creation (tee hee). That edge may...
The current energy patterns affecting the Earth will influence financial setbacks, travel slowdowns, career concerns, and an increase in gossip or misinformation. Delays are usually unwelcome in my world. Researchers say the unwelcome part is more common in males. It’s easy to get so hung up on what’s not...
